Sunday, 18 October 2009
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"I hate the part at the end of weddings where the groom whisks the bride away to happily ever after, and you're left behind still blowing bubbles."
- TessMy roommate got married today. I was supposed to be the maid of honor, but I respectfully declined for various reasons, which I shall not get into right now. I did not attend the wedding, as it was several hundred miles from here and I lacked the funds to do so.
Weddings might just be the happiest, yet most heartbreaking events on planet earth. While my I can't help but be happy for the union of two people who clearly love each other (even though I sometimes think they are foolish, because they aren't quite mature enough), my heart also sinks as I watch the newlywed couple, wondering when I'm going to get my happy ending.
I do realize that I'm quite young, but so are many of my friends who have recently been married or are about to do so. I would not wish to be married any time in the near future, but I would simply like to know my life is eventually headed in that directly. And quite frankly, currently, it's not.
My dear friend, Tess, summed it up today (as you read in the quote above). Our hearts fill with joy as we watch the bride and groom at the ceremony; we can't help but smile at the two people who are absolutely beaming with love for one another. We celebrate with them at their reception, having fun and sharing in their joy. But at the end of the day... many of us who are still single find ourselves feeling melancholy as we are left behind, while the happy couple drives off into the sunset.
I wonder when I'll get my happily ever after... if ever.
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I have some of the same thoughts/concerns as you sometimes. I find that it helps to remind myself that once I'm married...that's it. No more single life. So if I were to get married tomorrow, and live to be 86....that'd be 60 years of married life, but only 26 of single life. So I need to take advantage of being single RIGHT NOW. I'll probably get married (statistically, most people do)....and assuming that I do before I'm 40, I'll probably spend more of my life married than single. There are some things that you can do single that just aren't that feasible once you're married. So live it up bein' single! God's got this all figured out
You'll get your happily ever after...no worries 
I somehow have fears that when i actually get married whether i will remain honest and faithful to my wife. Gosh, i'm probably more worried about that than actually getting married.
Just remember like @hubbaduh - said...God is in control. =)
You are much more likely to get the "happily ever after" than I am. But its not like that is hard to achieve.
As for that quote, I love that part of the wedding. Bubbles are a lot of fun! Not to mention that ordinarily this occurs right after the ceremony and before the reception thus meaning the extremely dull and boring part of the event is completed and the fun and exciting part is about to begin. It also means you have entered the time when it is more socially appropriate to harass the couple.
If this couple that got married is the one I think it is and I remember what you've said correctly, then barring any huge achievements in maturity and situational awareness, I'm gonna wager that their marriage will be on the rocks within 3 years. Not that I particularly want to win that bet...
That quote reminds me of that movie, "My Bestfriend's Wedding."
Aw...thank you for sharing!!! that is sad to think about, but i know you will get it one day!!
@hubbaduh -
You make some excellent points, my friend. Thanks for the reminder! And yes, He does have eveything under control. Good thing, or I'd go crazy!
@llamalima - That is something to worry about, especially with the way divorce rates are these days. But if you let God be in control, you shouldn't have any worries in that department.
@mrcolorful - Lol.... sometimes I don't know if your comments should make me feel better or worse.
@c_jamaica - That's a good movie.
@Mac_Libureet -
Thanks for the vote of confidence! I sure hope you're right. Thanks for reading!
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - I don't know about that. I often go into stream of consciousness when writing comments so I don't necessarily even know what I was thinking when I left a comment. However in the case of my earlier comment here, I intended it as a positive except for the last paragraph which was more of a neutral statement of fact kind of thing.
@mrcolorful - Yeah, I think that was a fairly positive comment, especially for you. lol
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - I can be positive on occasion.
@mrcolorful - Apparently! Shocker!
@Pieces_of_a_Melody - I thought I was getting too predictable.
I guess you just have to keep believing that one day it will happen to you as well. It's one of the things that keeps me going.
My dearest sweetheart, wow, you are so young! Please, do NOT worry about getting married. Get into your 20's and discover who YOU are first. And ENJOY being single! This is the time where you get to do what you want and discover the world. (e.g. that last mission trip you went on.) Once you are married, every single act you do affects your other half. You can never, ever think of yourself as a single unit again. You can never make a decision in isolation again. (hubbaduh said a lot of things that make complete sense!)
Only get married once you know who you are and once you are able to look after yourself. Marriage is not two half people coming together to make a whole. it is two people who are 100% whole, who complement each other, coming together to make 100%.
I got married at 21. I don't regret getting married, but I regret getting married at that age. I think my hubby and I should have maybe waited a year...or three! I knew we were right for each other and reckoned, why wait? If you know, you know. Why postpone the inevitable. I knew I had the best catch ever and didn't want to risk losing him. If he truly loved me, I guess, a few years to wait would not have mattered?
Ugh, I could write a book on this! I am happily married. One kid and another on the way. It's been 7 good years. But don't be mistaken: Marriage takes a LOT of hard work. It is the laying down of self every single day. I advise you to watch the movie "Fireproof". If you have not - it changed our perspective on marriage COMPLETELY! It's worth it.
After all of that: Marriage is beautiful. A God-ordained institution. Don't worry about it. Leave it in God's hands. And pray every day that God will provide the right partner for you. A God-fearing man who will love God first and cherish you for the treasure you are.
@GirlOnMission - I know, I know. 19 is pretty young to be thinking about these things, but like I said, many of my friends (who are the same age, give or take a year or so) have already taken that step. I've never even been on a date.
You make many completely valid points. I agree with you wholeheartedly. I do enjoy being single, but there are just those days when I wish I wasn't.
I have seen Fireproof. It's a pretty good movie. It was a little hard to relate to, because I've never been married, nor have I even dated. But I think I learned a lot from it that I can use in the future.
Thanks for your advice. I really appreciate your comment.
haha, not to be the wet blanket here, but if you're looking for a happily ever after, stay away from the future. (just kidding, i don't really mean that :P sorry, i just saw this as a perfect opportunity to say this. happily ever afters are always possible. i see a bunch of people living happily ever afters ever day! xD)
whyyy so worried anyways? you got your whole life ahead of you! one step at a time. one...two...ten...
yeah, but being single is so versatile... and less expensive!
weddings seem like fun, but i'd hate to plan one. eh. i can wait.